a New Year’s Gift
I’m convinced. One of the things I would do more of if I
could go back to my fifteen years of homeschooling is to do more for myself
without feeling guilty. I would still give 100% but not 150%. Who has the time
you say? Before the pandemic our schedules were full of field trips, co-ops, basketball practice, potty
training, and laundry - our lives will return to normal. Now more than ever we need to get out, away by ourselves. Sometimes we just have to say no to one more
thing that our children want to do and say yes to something that would support our well-being as a person. After all
stress can be accumulative like a boiling pot of water and we need to let the
A marathon runner
knows they must pace themselves if they are to make it to the finish line.
That’s what we must do as homeschool moms- we must pace ourselves to avoid
burnout and make it across the finish line. The goal cannot be only to make to
high school graduation with well trained, God loving, kids, full of Christian character.
Wemust make it across the finish line
as well, still standing.
As a pastor’s wife I encourage young homeschool moms to go
out every week if possible and take time for themselves. Rejuvenate, take a
walk, have coffee with a friend, ride your bike by yourself, exercise, get a pedicure, anything that supports your
emotional and mental health.
Sarah, homeschool mother of eight, calls it Mental Health Wednesdays. It started out
as sessions for counseling and became so healthful she continued on and found
wonderful ways to refresh herself. She says, “It’s put a bounce in my step and has
given me a more positive outlook on life. I feel happier.” Now she kyaks by herself, paints, and takes
daily walks, by herself!
How can it be done at your house? Older children can watch
younger children. A Starbucks card or pet fish can be payment for watching
younger siblings every couple of weeks. Anything that’s important to the older
child can be used as barter. And there’s always grandma or swapping with
another mom who needs time out too.
So don’t wait another day! Give yourself a New Year’s Gift: Declare
a regular mom’s day out for yourself.
Take a regular Mental Health Wednesday. You will be happier for it and be
assured to make it across the finish line still standing and ready to go on to
the next phase of your life.